This is not an easy yes-or-no question, and there are a lot of grey areas. For this reason, I don't want to give a definite answer, but just outline some of the pros and cons to help you decide for yourself.
Pros
- It is fun and helps you feel as though you 'fit in' and are getting a 'normal teen experience'
- It gives you experience with a romantic relationship that you can then carry with you into the real world
- If your boyfriend or girlfriend is a Christian, it gives you someone to encourage you in your faith and keep you accountable (although friends work just as well!)
Cons
- If your boyfriend or girlfriend is not a Christian, there can be pressure to relax your moral beliefs and standards
- It is entirely possible to go too far with the physical side of the relationship
- You will most likely experience a painful breakup at some point
So, how can you decide what is best for you? If you do date, set standards from the beginning. Let the person you are dating know your religious beliefs and what is okay/not okay with you and your parents. If possible, date a Christian with a similar moral compass, and don't be afraid to end a relationship if things seem to be going too far.
It's really just a matter of listening to God's voice in your life. If it seems like he sends just the right person at just the right time, it might be a signal that dating is okay for you right now. If, on the other hand, a relationship ends or a door closes suddenly, it could be a sign that you need to take a step back for the time being.
And remember, you don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend to feel 'complete' and you shouldn't feel worthless if you don't have one. Ultimately, the only one who can make you complete is God. If you feel that the person you're dating is beginning to take His place, it's probably time to stop.
What do you think? Do you date? What are your opinions on the matter? Can you think of any more pros/cons to dating in high school?
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